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• #77: Energy Leaks: The Hidden Drain Sabotaging Your Golf Game

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It’s Saturday afternoon.

You’ve just finished your round—and you’re exhausted.

Not just physically. Mentally. Emotionally.

You’re drained from the tension of missed putts, the frustration of poor shots, the constant inner commentary that told you you weren’t good enough.

• You drive home in silence, hoping the kids don’t want to play when you walk through the door. 

• You’re short with your spouse. 

• You cancel dinner with friends.

And you wonder, “Why does something I love make me feel this way?”

It’s not the golf.

It’s the energy you brought into the round—and how much you lost along the way.

Because here’s the truth: You woke up with the best intentions. 

Today was the day. 

• You were going to follow through—on your routine, on your priorities, on your mindset. 

• You were finally going to commit to being the calm, confident, composed golfer you know you’re capable of becoming.

But somewhere between the 4th and 14th hole, it slipped away…

• Not because you forgot what to do.

• Not because you don’t care enough.

• Not because you’re missing some secret strategy.

Because you ran out of energy.

In today’s newsletter, you’ll learn how to spot hidden energy leaks, distinguish between small and large drains on your energy, and understand why emotional regulation is essential for peak performance—on and off the golf course.

Let’s tee off!

It’s Not A Knowledge Problem. It’s An Energy Problem

Let’s be clear: you already know what to do to improve your game.

• You know the fundamentals. 

• You know how to prepare. 

• You know how to respond. 

You’ve invested in lessons, practiced religiously, studied swing mechanics, and even listened to mental game podcasts.

So why aren’t you doing it?

Because energy—not time, not tactics—is your most precious resource. 

And every day, every round, you start with a limited supply.

And here’s what most golfers (read: people) don’t realize:

You’re leaking it.

Constantly.

The Leaky Fuel Line

Imagine you’re driving to the course with a full tank of gas… 

Unbeknownst to you, there’s a small leak in your fuel line. Nothing catastrophic. Just a slow, consistent drip.

You start the drive feeling great. But by the time you arrive, your tank is nearly half empty. And midway through the round, you’re sputtering, wondering why your body feels tight and your mind feels foggy.

That’s what happens when you carry emotional tension into your round.

• Fear. 

• Shame. 

• Guilt. 

• Frustration. 

• Pressure.

These emotions are energetic leaks. 

They quietly bleed your mental and physical energy, leaving you with less and less to fuel your focus, your feel, and your freedom.

And it’s not just happening on the golf course. 

These same leaks are present in your business meetings, in conversations with your spouse, and during moments with your children. 

You show up exhausted, distracted, reactive—not because you want to, but because you're energetically tapped out.

If you’re serious about taking your game to the next level - on and off the course - click here to schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call to learn how I can help you plug your energy leaks and play to your potential.

Emotion = Energy in Motion

The root of the word “emotion” is emotere — Latin for “energy in motion.”

When you suppress or ignore your emotions, you don’t make them disappear. You store them. And storing emotions is like leaving your car idling in the garage—burning fuel without moving an inch.

The more unprocessed emotion you carry, the more energy you burn without benefit.

• Anger tightens your grip and distorts your tempo.

• Shame closes your body posture and undermines your confidence.

• Fear floods your nervous system, making you overthink and freeze over the ball.

• Guilt keeps you mentally stuck in the past, unable to move forward.

And if you’re carrying any of these into your round (or your workday, or your marriage), you’re playing with a leak you don’t even see.

These energy leaks are why the same argument keeps happening at home, why the same tension builds every Monday morning, and, why, despite knowing what to do, you can't seem to consistently do it.

When You Run Low on Energy, You Default to Old Patterns

This is why you struggle to stick to your process.

Why you abandon your routine.

Why you lose your cool, spiral after a bad hole, or check out mentally halfway through the round.

Your nervous system is simply running out of fuel.

And when that happens, you don’t rise to the occasion. You fall to your habits.

When you're depleted, it's almost impossible to stay curious after a bad shot, stay patient when your kids push your buttons, or stay calm when your business throws you a curveball.

The version of you that knows how to stay composed, reset, and recommit is still in there. But he needs energy to come online.

 And if you’re not managing your energetic budget, he won’t.

The Size and Source of Your Leaks Matter

Not all energy leaks are created equal. Some are slow, steady drips—others are full-on blowouts.

Small leaks look like:

• Scrolling your phone mindlessly in the car before teeing off

• Ruminating over yesterday’s missed putts while brushing your teeth

• Skipping your breathwork or meditation because you're "too busy"

Each of these doesn’t feel like much. But over time, they add up—like a leaky faucet that slowly runs your energy bill through the roof.

Large leaks look like:

• Replaying a work mistake or fight with your spouse in your head for hours

• Stewing in frustration after a chunked wedge or three-putt

• Carrying shame or self-judgment from poor past performances or broken promises

These hit hard and fast—they pull you out of the present moment and tank your energy in an instant.

Then there’s the difference between conscious and unconscious leaks:

• Conscious leaks are ones you recognize but haven't addressed: you know you're running hot, feeling impatient, or stuck in a loop of negative thinking.

• Unconscious leaks are trickier. They stem from unresolved emotional wounds, limiting beliefs, and destructive mindset patterns you may not even realize you're operating from. Like people-pleasing. Avoiding conflict. Or thinking you need to "earn" rest.

Until you bring those unconscious patterns into awareness, they’ll keep draining your tank without you even realizing it.

You’re An Energetic Being

Every cell in your body is made of energy. 

And every emotion carries a specific vibrational frequency. 

Joy, love, gratitude? High-frequency, expansive states. 

Fear, shame, anger? Low-frequency, contractive states.

This isn’t just spiritual talk—it’s physics. Studies in bioenergetics and neurobiology confirm that our emotional states have direct, measurable impacts on our physiology and performance.

The more time you spend in high-frequency emotional states, the more Life Force you bring to every shot. The more you stay stuck in lower ones, the more energy you bleed.

This is why mindset work isn’t just fluff—it’s the foundation. No amount of perfect practice or swing tweaks can compensate for an energy tank running on empty.

Click here to schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call and learn how I can help you cultaive more Life Force and live your best life.

Plug the Leaks and Reclaim Your Power

If you want to play to your potential, you need to protect your energy like your life depends on it. 

Because your golf game—and your quality of life—certainly does.

That starts with learning how to:

• Identify where your energy is leaking (emotionally, mentally, physically)

• Release stored emotional tension

• Cultivate high-vibrational emotional states on demand

You need practices that help you reset, rewire, and recharge.

This is exactly the work I do with my clients through golf hypnosis and mindset coaching. And it’s why so many golfers tell me they feel lighter, clearer, and more focused after just one session…which only amplifies on and off the course as we continue our work together. 

And that shift doesn’t just show up in lower scores. 

• It shows up in the boardroom. 

• In your marriage. 

• In your mood.

So if you’re tired of leaking energy into frustration, fear, and tension—and ready to fuel your best golf and best life—click here to schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call.

Let’s fill your tank with purpose—and patch the holes for good.

Your Next Step

Every newsletter will conclude with a suggested action step and further resources on the topic we discussed.

After reading today’s newsletter, I encourage you to read it again. Seriously. Then, set a timer for 10 minutes and write down every energy leak you’re currently experiencing and choose one to focus on patching as soon as possible.

If you have any questions, feel free to DM me on Instagram (@thegolfhypnotherapist) or send me an email directly: [email protected]

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Until next time,

Paul

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